Let’s Get Real About Sex + Aging
A lot like discussing politics at Thanksgiving with your great uncle Ben—sex, aging and their relationship to each other are topics that are typically skirted around. Unfortunately, this dynamic allows misinformation to be easily accepted and passed along. So, let’s break it down.
We lose interest in sex as we age.
False.
74% of men and 70% of women over the age of 60 find their sex lives more satisfying than when they were in their forties*.
Emotional factors are responsible for a woman’s decreased sex drive.
False.
Hormonal changes at menopause, like lowered estrogen levels; may lead to vaginal dryness and discomfort during intercourse. Physical factors like these tend to play a larger role than emotional baggage. The good news? We’ve got lube! There are many excellent sexual lubricants on the market. Here are some of my favorites:
Oil Based–has a thicker consistency but destroys latex. Product: Viva Naturals Organic Extra-Virgin Coconut Oil (not just for cooking! haha)
Silicone Based–extremely slick and long lasting, often hypoallergenic, but destroys silicone toys. Products: Replens personal lubricant and Swiss Navy Silicone Lubricant
Water-Based–tends to dry out quickly and get sticky but friendly with everything! Product: Good Clean Love Personal Lubricant, BabeLube lubricant and Pure Romance Just Like Me collection
Aging is not sexy.
False.
We are our own biggest critic when it comes to our bodies. But the truth is, confidence is key. Own and take pride in yourself and your appearance, be proud of your unique and beautiful body. This confidence and acceptance will seamlessly translate to the person who loves and supports you.
Although, sex and attraction are not skin deep. Arousal comes from the social and emotional connection partners have with each other. These small gestures of connection, like a sweet text message or a playful kiss, keep things interesting and promise more.
The best way to keep your sex life alive and your body interested in it is to stay healthy with exercise to keep your heart and muscles strong and your mind engaged.
What has your experience been with sexuality as you age? What are the specific concerns or issues you’ve encountered? What are you having fun with? Let me know in the comments below, or reach out via email. molly@mollyeames.com
* The National Council on Aging
